5 Ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and marriage

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

5 ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage


  • 1. Living outside of what you can afford

    A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: "The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband's means."
    Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about your finances.
    Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires or racking up astronomical amounts of debt on your credit card is a poor way of saying "thank you" to a faithful spouse who works hard every day to provide for the family.
    Yes, you may not have enough to buy that Kate Spade bag you've had your eyes on for months, but your husband will love and appreciate the fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides.
    • 2. Constant negativity

      You hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the street, your dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in between. As soon as your husband walks through the door, you launch into action and dump every negative and angry thought that's crossed your mind throughout the day.
      Can you imagine having to carry that burden? Negativity is draining. Men like to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints makes it difficult for him to help solve your pains.
      If there is one thing I've learned from marriage is that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can't help you do that, it makes him unhappy. It's okay to have a bad day once in a while, that's totally understandable, but don't make it a way of life.
    • 3. Putting everything else first

      When your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career in front of your husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant. Imagine having that message sent to you every day for many years. What would that do to your self esteem?
      Put your husband first.
      Although it sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I think you'd be amazed to find that it's often the key to the greatest happiness in marriage. So many couples get divorced these days, because they neglect to care and love one another and put each other first.
      If you choose to put each other first, you will find a lot of joy.
    • 4. Withholding physical affection

      Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you constantly decline intimacy, it wears on them.
      Sex should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God.
      It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you -- and you only. Even though you might not always be in the mood, it's worth it to give in (when you can) and spend that time bonding.
    • 5. Not speaking his language

      Women love to drop hints. (I think it's part of our DNA.) But men just don't get them. (I think that is a part of their DNA.)
      Don't waste your time giving subtle hints that he won't understand: Speak plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don't bottle things up until you burst. If he asks you what's wrong, don't respond with "nothing" and then expect him to read your mind and emotions. Be open about how you really feel.
  • Original source of this article : familyshare.com

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Letting Go

Sunday, December 14, 2014

How do you walk away from someone you love
And take the road of friend
Can you reroute the course you have taken
And start over once again?

I don't really want to let you go
But inside me I know I must
The times we've loved . . . the times you've left
My heart says stay . . . but it's my mind I must trust.

We have shared so much together
Laughter . . . fun times . . . tears
Yet sometimes we can't turn back time
We must walk away, and allow ourselves to heal.

I know one day you will be happy
And your soulmate you will find
I know we each have one out there
Even if for now . . . only in our minds.

May life be gentle with you
May God's best come your way
And on some quiet tomorrow
You will realize things were better this way.


Letting Go, by Judy Burnette

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Need You (By My Side)

Saturday, March 28, 2009

The very thought of you, leaving my life
Broke me down in tears
I took for granted all the love that you gave to me
I know thats what I feared

Dont go away
Every heart beat
Every moment
Everything I see is you

Please forgive me
Im so sorry
Dont say were through

Girl I need you, to be by my side
Girl I need you, to open up my eyes
Cause without you, where would I be
Yes I need you
Come back to me

A kiss is not a kiss
Without your lips kissing mine
You bring me paradise
I cant live if you took your love
Away from me
Without you I would die

Every second
Every minute
Every time I close my eyes
I could feel you
So I want you
To stay in my life

Girl I need you, to be by my side
Girl I need you, to open up my eyes
Cause without you, where would I be
Yes I need you
Come back to me



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