How To Make Woman Cum : Female Orgasm

Female Orgasm And Better Sex (Way Better Sex)

As always, the most important key to creating a better sex life is honest communication between you and your lover. If you can have real, frank conversations about this topic then you're well on your way to being able to solve the problem. The first thing you need to find out is what are the road blocks standing in the way. Here are some questions you need to ask her:

1) Can she bring herself to an orgasm on her own via masturbation?

2) Does she have beliefs about sex that make her feel shameful or dirty participating in it with you?

3) Is she taking any anti-depressants? Unfortunately they can have an incredibly dampening effect on both a person's libido and the ability to orgasm. So can a variety of medical problems.

4) Is their any history of sexual abuse in her background that might make her shut down to sex just when you start getting intimate?

5) Does she understand that women need and enjoy orgasms as much as men, and that if she continues to not have them during your lovemaking she may end up feeling very resentful and even begin creating reasons to not have sex?

Female Orgasm And Masturbation

1) The Importance of Female Masturbation

If a woman can bring herself to orgasm via masturbation she's already won half the battle. Understand that men don't "give" orgasms to women; they can only help them achieve them. In order to orgasm a woman has to both be in the right frame of mind and receive the right stimulation. If she can masturbate to an orgasm by herself she's figured out both of these actions, and now she just needs to open up and share it all with you.

That, however, can be easier said than done. Many women still feel masturbating, especially for women, is still taboo. If this is an issue for your lover you need to let her know that you can't figure out how to push all the right "bells & whistles" if she can't tell you where they are. You are a man, a great man, but you're not a mind reader. Each woman is unique, the sort of touch, stroke, caress, etc. that drives one woman wild can drive another one crazy – with annoyance!

Ideally she should practice masturbating on her own and then share with you what she's learned – this isn't because I want you to be left out, it's because learning how to orgasm for some women can take a very long time! You, however, can play a key role in helping her get into that right "sexy" frame of mind. Remember, the brain is the biggest sex organ. You can help get your lover ready to let her "fingers do the walking" with a steamy phone conversation just before she begins, or even during. The sexy sound of your voice may be just the thing to get things moving in the right direction. Make sure to lay the compliments on thick! Tell her how beautiful you find her, and how amazingly sexy the idea of what she's doing is for you. Also let her know how thrilling it would be for you to be able to watch her in person, how much you would love every sight, sound, taste and smell. In this way she'll start getting use to the idea of "showing" you how it all works for her.

Please note orgasms are like muscles, if you haven't learned how to use them they take awhile to get condition. Do your best to be patient and supportive of her progress. The rewards will be worth it!


2) Overcoming Shame About Sex

We still live in a world of double standards in regards to men, women and sex. If your lover has been raised to believe sex is a sin then you really have some serious conversations ahead of you. Some women feel that it's okay to have sex so long as they're "passive" about it, as long as they just let it be "done" to them.

For some men this is just fine, but as I pointed out, when a woman isn't truly enjoying sex (and that usually includes orgasms for her as well) she'll find all kinds of reasons not to participate in it. Ideally you want an active female participant who isn't going to leave you with all the responsibility for everyone's pleasure. Passive might seem just fine in the beginning, but sooner or later you're going to get bored.

If she won't honestly look at her beliefs and how they're harming your sex life together, you may want to reconsider the relationship. I don't mean to sound harsh, but some people just aren't going to change religious beliefs they've had their whole lives.


3) If She's Taking Anti-Depressants

Anti-Depressants can be a big challenge. They are very serious medicine and often have nasty side effects. If your lover is on an anti-depressant and that seems to be the reason she can't orgasm (like say, she was able to in the past but can't now) than she has a few choices – but all involve her doctor.

She needs to be frank with the doctor about what's happening and ask if a) she can go on a lower dosage or b) perhaps try a type that doesn't have such serious sexual side effects. Again you'll both need to be patient because most of these drugs cannot be stopped cold turkey without serious and sometimes harmful side effects. Dealing with anti-depressants should always be in cooperation with a medical doctor.


4) Is There Abuse In Her Past?

Sad but true many of us have been sexually abused as children. If this is the case with your lover she needs to seriously consider getting the appropriate counseling. Of course you can talk with her about it, but you're not qualified to work through her trauma with her. Understand that this is beyond your powers to heal. She needs to see a professional, but certainly your love and support will be needed as well.


5) Her Belief About the Female Orgasm

There is still the idea out there that female orgasms aren't, and shouldn't be, as important to women as to men. That idea has led us to miscommunication for years and years and huge numbers of women claiming to have a headache rather than face sex with a man. No, a woman doesn't always have to orgasm from sex, but then neither does a man. There are times when you can have a tremendously erotic experience from just pleasing your partner, or perhaps, just from foreplay where neither party "gets off".

The important point here is that you both recognize that her orgasms are as important as yours. True, hers might take longer to bring about, but that doesn't mean she should get the short end of the stick as far as receiving them.

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How To Make Woman Horny

Here are 10 easy tricks to make your girl horny ,

1. Understand That What Turns You On Isn't Necessarily What Turns Her On

Women do get turned on via their eyes; however, your favorite porn movie probably isn't going to do the trick.

Porn is still made, by and large, for men. Want to know what turns her on? Take a look through her magazines and books, think back over the movies she insisted on seeing, and you'll get a good idea of what she likes to think about when she wants to get in the mood. Does she have any erotic literature hidden away?

Read through it when she's not around and get a good idea of its tone and feel so you can surprise her with a new book along the same vein. Don't admit you've been digging through her private stuff, just tell her that a friend told you this new book really turned his girlfriend on when he read to her from it and see if she's game to having you do the same.


2. Talk to Her About Sex Articles From a Magazine

A great way to get her thinking about sex with you is to get her talking about sex in general. Flip through both of your current magazines and find interesting articles on sex where you learned something new. If it's your magazine make sure it's something positive for women, like a new position, or great tips on oral sex to give her more pleasure…

But here's the trick, don't bring it up when you want to get some – bring it up when you're out at dinner together, or on a way to a friend's party. She'll be impressed you're thinking about improving your sex life together and the conversation will probably be steamy and enlightening for the both of you.


3. Flatter Her in Unexpected Ways

One of the biggest things women complain about is that men only compliment them when they're already in the mood for sex and can't wait to jump on them. Stop flattering her when you're already drooling and instead give her small but thoughtful compliments throughout the day.

Tell her she how great she looks when you pass her in the hall on the way to class, or when she's on her way to work. Call her the day after she made dinner for you and tell her how much you appreciated it, leave a note on her car and tell her you're thinking about her, bring her flowers just because.


4. Be a Tease

The great seducers are great teases. They know the brain is the biggest sex organ and they know how to get the mind of the object of their seduction "teased" into sexual interest in subtle, slight of hand ways without being overt and obvious. Just how sly can you be? Just how sweet and flirty can you be? Just how many ways can you insert seemingly innocent "double entendres" into your conversations together?


5. Indulge All of Her Senses

Plan a short road trip, or just a full day of fun, and consciously work on indulging all of her senses in sexy and imaginative ways. Make sure you smell great, wearing a touch of her favorite cologne (but not too much). Choose great sexy music to listen to in the car. Eat at one of her favorite restaurants, or try something new and exotic you've heard good things about. Spend time in nature in some place beautiful. Go to an amusement park and ride the roller coasters and eat some great chocolate.


6. Dress to the Nines For a Big Night Out

Most women love to get dressed up for a big night out. Sure they love to spend hours making themselves gorgeous but they also love to see how great you look all spiffed up. Take her to a play, the opera, and a concert – any excuse for you to put on a suit and tie and remind her why she was so attracted to you in the first place.


7. Take Her to a Sexy Movie

It's the holiday season and that means romantic movies for adults are coming out – take her to see one starring the male lead she likes the most. Yeah, I know, you probably think it's just a "chick flick" but hey, if it gets her hot and bothered to see Jude Law making out with a beautiful co-star who are you to complain?

If you can't find one playing that she likes rent something romantic, sexy and foreign. The French especially make great movies with adult plots, and yes adult sex, handled in a tasteful but amazingly sexy ways that will have your girl ready to go before the movies even over.


8. Take Her Lingerie Shopping

Don't come home with some bright red or bright purple pair of crotch-less panties wrapped up for her to freak over. No, here the idea is to get both of you excited with the adventure of lingerie shopping. Make an afternoon of it.

Check out both the hot little boutique that sells the expensive European stuff as well as one of those new "girl friendly" sex shops that sells everything from seamed stocking to the latest sex toys. While you're at it, buy a new sex toy together – let her pick it out. By the time you get home she'll both be ready to model the lingerie for you and use the toy.


9. Surprise Her With Dinner and a Hot Bath

Tell her you're going to take care of dinner for a change. If you can't cook buy some nice things at your local gourmet grocery store and arrange them nicely. Create a great atmosphere with candles and some festive mixed drinks, or a great bottle of wine. Tell her to call when she's on her way so you can surprise her by running a hot bath.

Use bubbles (kudos if you buy her some new great smelling bath soap), light candles, and if you're really romantic, sprinkle rose petals from the door to the bathroom…


10. Spend an Evening With a Few "Red Shoe Diaries" & a Great Bottle of Wine

Yes, they're pretty tame compared to your favorite porn, but the "Red Shoe Diary" videos are pretty racy compared to what most women are use to watching. The stories are a bit silly, but the actors are great to look at for both sexes.

And I guarantee after a night where you ran her a hot bath (which you might have shared), and you made (or brought in) a great dinner, after a couple of these films – trust me – she'll be ready to drag you off to the bedroom. Be ready to make your move.

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Romantic Ways To Propose

Ready to take the proverbial plunge? Planning to tie the knot once and for all but haven't got the slightest idea where to begin? Well, you can start by choosing from the most romantic ways to propose listed here. These romantic ways to propose will merely point you in the right direction. What happens after she says "yes" is entirely up to you, so enjoy!

1. Pop the question on a candlelit dinner in a place that is memorable for the both of you.

Unlike the other two methods listed below, this one is perhaps the most predictable. There's a fine line between making the evening special and making it extra special. Too little effort and it might not have the desired romantic effect. Too much and she might begin to suspect what you're up to, thus, giving away the surprise.

If there is cause for celebration, like an anniversary, all the better as this gives you the perfect excuse to take her out to a lavish dinner at her favorite restaurant. Reminisce about all the memories you've made together, especially while eating at that particular place. Remind her of the smallest details she would never expect you to remember, like the smell of her perfume or the way her hair curled just right that first night you went out. Lead her gently towards your purpose, all the while reassuring her of your love. And when all's said and done, ask for her hand.

2. Plan a public proposal.

If you are absolutely sure that she will say "yes," a public proposal is one of the most romantic ways to propose that will surely be one for the books. Do not attempt this if you feel that your partner is still unsure. With a public proposal, she may feel that you are pressing the issue and she might feel "pressured" to say yes.

However, if all that she's waiting for is for you to pop the question, a public proposal – in a theater, a concert, a baseball game or in the middle of a huge family affair with the people that you both love – will do the trick; and it will be a moment that she can treasure forever!

3. Be creative with your wedding proposal.

Thinking of unique and romantic ways to propose is important because the tale will surely be told from generation to generation. From something as grand as "painting" your proposal in the sky to something as simple as getting down on your knees while strolling in the park – the key is to come up with a unique way to ask the question during the most unexpected time and her heartfelt answer will take care of the rest.

Marriage is a journey, and how better to get off to a good start than by one remarkable proposal she'll never forget? Take your pick from these romantic ways to propose and she'll be telling all your future grandkids about how their granddad swept her off her feet.

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